Self-esteem is a tricky thing. If you lack it, your life tends to become a bit of a vicious cycle of you struggling to believe in yourself and your abilities, and then, as a result, missing opportunities and constantly losing battles, which in turn makes you lose confidence again. This is never more obvious than around New Year, when we’re celebrating and making resolutions to make the next year better and more fulfilled. How can our 2018 be better if we doubt ourselves every step of the way? Well, to help you, we’ve got a few tips that will lead you into the next year with your head held high, and feeling confident that you can take on anything.
Learn a new skill
Learning something new gives you an incredible confidence boost, especially if it’s a skill you always wanted to learn but never dared. Learn how to dance, or play the guitar, or maybe learn how to code, or knit, or do makeup better, or try a new recipe. Allow yourself to become passionate about it, spend time developing the skill, and reward yourself when you make progress.
Being kind to others can remind you to be kind to yourself, and it feels pretty damn good to be the person who helped another solve a problem. Here’s a warning, though: don’t let others abuse your good nature. There’s a difference between being helpful and letting others walk all over you, so find a balance and learn to say “no” when you’re not comfortable with doing something.
Challenge yourself to think positively
Take a notebook and write to yourself. Imagine you’re someone else, someone who’s very kind, and write a letter to yourself and be gentle and encouraging. Each day, make sure to do and think nice things about yourself. As soon as you feel negativity coming, try to stop it, try to replace the bad thoughts with good ones. When you’re feeling particularly down, read the letter you wrote to yourself.
Let toxic people go
If someone is constantly putting you down, if they need to be mean to you to feel good about themselves, then those people are someone you should cast out of your life. Even if they are family, even if they are close friends – if you find yourself feeling more insecure or sad when they’re around, it means they are bad for you. You don’t have to cut ties completely, but put some distance and don’t let anyone make you feel like less. Bye, haters!
Work on your appearance
It’s not even about looking a certain way or fitting into a specific standard, it’s about you putting yourself first for a change. Start exercising, wear prettier clothes, and learn how to use makeup to enhance your best features. Also, why not go to a salon or a cosmetic clinic occasionally and let professionals pamper you? If you have a flaw that always made you insecure, why not fix it? Plastic surgery, that thing you were always afraid people would judge you for, is actually a great option. You can change things about yourself, from a breast augmentation procedure to simple fat cavitation. The point is that you have the power to change anything you want, and you shouldn’t worry about others. You do you, darling.
Mistakes happen to everyone. You’ll stumble, you’ll fall, you’ll make terrible errors. And you know what? That’s okay. A mistake is an opportunity to learn how to do things better. A failure is only a failure if you let it discourage you, but if you allow yourself to pause and consider it, you’ll see where you went wrong. Don’t be sad because it failed, be happy because now you have the opportunity to do better.
Use this time to think about what you want for yourself next year and how you can work on personal growth. Let 2018 be the best year you’ve ever had!